Son I Never Had
Heather McMahan · 2023 · Netflix
An energetic hour of physical comedy about grief and IVF.
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Heather McMahan excels at making heavy, uncomfortable subjects feel like a chaotic brunch conversation. Her debut hour centers on the absurdities of grief, particularly the sudden death of her father from pancreatic cancer, which occurred only seven days after his diagnosis. Instead of looking for solemnity, she treats the tragedy with a blunt, survivalist humor, comparing the brief timeline of his illness to her menstrual cycle and laughing at her own behavior during his eulogy.
Filmed at the historic Lexington Opera House in Lexington, Kentucky, the self-produced special arrived at a peak moment in McMahan’s career. Having built a massive, dedicated following through Instagram and her Absolutely Not podcast, she was already selling out venues like Radio City Music Hall before Netflix acquired the hour. The stage show relies heavily on the physical comedy and hyper-expressive voice work that made her an online sensation, but she translates those traits into structured, long-form storytelling.
Beyond her family dynamic, McMahan covers the indignities of modern adulthood, from her struggles with in vitro fertilization to the exhausting standards of female beauty and wellness retreats. She explains how her father’s joke that she was the “son he never had,” prompted by her thick neck and golf-shirt wardrobe, eventually shaped her perspective. It is a highly theatrical, high-energy hour that leans into the messy, unglamorous realities of getting older.